If you are wondering if you’re demisexual, you’ve come to the right place. Here we’ll explain the meaning of demisexuality and how you can tell you might be a demisexual so you can answer your ‘am I demisexual’ question.
The meaning of demisexuality
Let’s start with sharing what AVEN wiki says about demisexuality: “A demisexual person is someone who does not experience sexual attraction to another person unless or until they have formed an emotional connection with that person. It’s more commonly seen in, but by no means confined, to romantic relationships.”
Am I demisexual?
It’s not a choice. It’s an orientation.
Being demisexual is not a choice. Even though some people might think it ‘s a choice, it truly is an orientation. Demisexuals do not feel sexually attracted to others until a close, emotional bond is formed.
Demisexual vs sexual vs asexual
If your previous relationships or crushes have started as a friendship, you might be demisexual. You’ll also likely notice a difference between you and your (sexual) peers. As (physical) flirting and touch from people you do not have a deep (enough) bond with, most likely make you feel uncomfortable. If the thought of doing these things with someone who you’ve emotionally bonded with on a deeper level, makes you happy or even excited you likely are demisexual. If it doesn’t, you might be leaning more towards asexual.
Want to know more about what demisexuality is and isn’t? The video below explains into great detail and gives many examples. These might give you insights and perhaps you’ll even find similarities to your own life.
Find other demisexuals
About 1% of the population falls on the asexuality spectrum. A portion of that group will be demisexual, as they fall in the asexuality spectrum. But don’t let this get you down. That’s still a lot of people. And with the demisexual, asexual and graysexual community growing every day and finding each other online: you too will be able to find others like yourself.
Looking to meet other asexuals, demisexuals and graysexuals online? For friendship or perhaps even more? Please visit our homepage at asexuals.net for more information about our website, the possibilities and sign up right away if you’re interested!
Finding demisexuals through dating apps
If you’re specifically looking for an app to find and date other demisexuals (or asexuals and graysexuals) then be sure to read reviews first. Some have had (safety) issues and others are overpriced. However, they are there and if it helps you meet your match, then we’re happy to point you in the right direction. You can find the best options of dating apps for demisexuals here.
Need more information about demisexuality?
Demisexuality Resource Center
One article won’t answer all your questions. We completely understand. So be sure to check out the Demisexuality resource center. Their whole site is dedicated to demisexuality.
Also be sure to visit AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) as their website offers a large archive of resources on demisexuality, asexuality and graysexuality (and more). They also have the world’s largest asexual community forum.
We hope this helps you find the answers you need!