The aromantic spectrum is very diverse. Whether you’re here to learn more about the different aromantic identities, or you would like to find out which one describes you best: this list is for you!
The aromantic spectrum
Asexual and aromantic people are often grouped together. Something that shouldn’t happen, as asexuals aren’t automatically aromantic. And aromantic people aren’t automatically asexual. That being said, some asexuals do also consider themselves to be aromantic. That’s why we also dedicate a section of our blog to the aromantic members in our community.
Within the aromantic spectrum you can find quite a few aromantic identities. For many aromantic people it can be a helpful way to discover what they identify as, and where they belong within the aromantic spectrum. Below you’ll find a list of these different identities. If you happen to be an aroace, scroll to the bottom of this page to find people just like yourself.
One of the many different aromantic identities on the aromantic spectrum is called aroflux. People who consider themselves to be aroflux see their romantic attraction fluctuating between experiencing no romantic attraction at all (aromantic), to experiencing it (alloromantic). While the romantic feelings usually move more towards the aroromantic side of the scale, it really can go both ways. So if you feel like your aromantic feelings change back and forth, you might just be aroflux.
Someone who is aegoromantic enjoys the concept of romance but does not want to participate in actual romantic activities. An example of this would be an aegoromantic individual enjoying watching a romantic show or reading a romance novel. However acting out these romantic stories in real life would not be appealing to an aegoromantic person. An aegoromantic person would typically not desire a romantic relationship.
People on the aromantic spectrum who consider themselves to be romance-repulsed, are called apothiromantic. A romance-repulsed aromantic is repulsed by the idea of romance all together. Like with any romantic identity, apothiromantic individuals can have any sexual orientation. Their aromantic identity is not directly connected to their sexual identity.
An aromantic person does not experience any romantic attraction and or romantic desire. Another well known and often used term for aromantic people is aros, or aro for an individual.
Aromanticism occupies the A in the LGBTQIA+ acronym. Alongside with asexual and agender. You can be aromantic and asexual, but this does not have to be the case.
However, if you do consider yourself to be an aromantic asexual, and are looking for other aroaces (aromantic asexuals), come and meet our community of asexuals!
Arospike is an aromantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum. This identity is for those who usually do not feel a romantic attraction. Sometimes however, an arospike can experience a (rare) sudden spike of aromantic attraction that will last for a short amount of time. After this they will return just as quickly, to aromantic.
Autoromantic is a term for people who experience a romantic attraction (exclusive or not) towards themselves. It can occur in different forms, such as: fantasizing about a romantic relationship with yourself. Or, as described above: feeling little to no romantic attraction to others but being able to feel romantic attraction to yourself.
Bellusromantic is defined as someone who has interest in (certain aspects of) traditional romantic behaviour such as holding hands and cuddling. However, a bellusromantic would not experience romantic attraction and does not want an actual romantic relationship. So they keyword here is ‘interest’. The interest is there, but a bellusromantic can’t and wouldn’t want to put it into practice.
Caedromantic (or caedoromantic) is an person who feels they were alloromantic at some point in their life but are now aromantic due to past trauma. Needless to say, the label caedromantic should only be used by trauma survivors and those with PTSD. Caedromantic is considered to be a microlabel within the aromantic spectrum.
Cupioromantic is also (previously) known as kalosromantic. This is a orientation on the aromantic spectrum for those who do not experience romantic attraction, yet desire a romantic relationship. Cupioromantics are commonly romance-favorable.
An example of this could be a demiromantic who may date someone on the assumption of experiencing romantic attraction later on when they establish a strong emotional bond. Another example could be a frayromantic who continues to date someone after losing the initial romantic attraction.
A demiromantic is someone who experiences romantic attraction only after establishing a deep emotional bond with another. This bond may be sexual, platonic or any other form, depending on the individual. Being demiromantic is not a choice. They cannot feel any romantic attraction before a close connection is formed.
A fictoromantic falls under the aromantic spectrum as they do not experience romantic attraction to (real life) people. Fictoromantic is a term used for people who experience romantic attraction exclusively towards fictional characters. Fictoromantic is also known as fictonromantic.
Another identity on the aromantic spectrum is a frayromantic, and is also known as ignotaromantic. They feel romantic attraction at first, but lose this attraction once they get to know the other person and form a deep bond.
Frayromantics can be seen as the opposite of demiromantics, as they do not feel romantic attraction until after an emotional bond is formed.
Someone who’s grayromantic (or greyromantic) feels romantic attraction infrequently or only under specific circumstances. Some grayromantic people only experience romantic attraction a couple of times in their lives. Others might experience this attraction more often, but not nearly as frequent as an alloromantic person.
Lithromantic / Akoiromantic
lithromantic, also known as akoiromantic, is a romantic orientation on the romantic spectrum. Some consider this label to be leaning more towards the greyromantic identity than aromantic. This is because an lithromantic may experience romantic attraction. However they do not want this reciprocated. An lithromantic may be uncomfortable at the thought of someone being romantically attracted to them, or they may loose their romantic feelings if they learn it’s reciprocated. As such, lithromantic do not feel compelled to seek out a romantic relationship and are considered to fall on the aromantic spectrum.
Someone who identifies as myrromantic is on the aromantic spectrum but might feel confused as to where exactly, as they can experience multiple aromantic identities at once. They can also rapidly fluctuate. As an example: a person who considers themself to be both demiromantic as well as grayromantic. This might be confusing to some, which is why myrromantic can be a more comfortable label to identify with.
Quoiromantic is also an aromantic identity on the aromantic spectrum, and describes people who don’t relate and/or understand experiences or concepts of romantic attraction and orientation. In other words, a quoiromantic is someone who is unsure of what romantic attraction is and/or is unsure if they experience romantic attraction.
A recipromantic (also known as reciproromantic) is someone who does not experience romantic attraction until they know that the other individual is romantically attracted to them first. The word comes from the word ‘reciprocate’.
A requisromantic is someone who experiences a very limited, or no romantic attraction and interest due to some form of emotional exhaustion. The reason of emotional exhaust may have many reasons such as (bad) past experiences dealing with romance or other emotionally draining reasons.
Aromantic spectrum: more information
Now that you’ve learned about the different identities within the aromantic spectrum you might have more questions. We highly recommend AUREA (Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy) for more information about aromanticsm.
We can also highly recommend this video about aromanticsm by Anthony Padilla. In this video Anthony interviews different aromantic people and how they experience their romantic orientation.
PS: If you are an aromantic asexual and would like to meet other people within the asexual spectrum, be sure to scroll down! We’d love for you to join us and find others like you!
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